This site is inaugurated on 26th September 2007, the first day of the rest of my life. That's just a worn out, but accurate way of saying I'm now retired!

The purpose of this site, in a nutshell, is to transfer some of what I have seen and learned to the next generation. The reason I think this site's content might be useful to the next generation is that I have come to realize,

Society attacks early, when the individual is helpless.
-- B.F. Skinner (1904-1990), experimental psychologist

I'm going to try to counteract that here.

The central theme of these pages is the longtime focus of my research, indeed my search as a human being: how can people of different generations interact with each other in a way that benefits both. For reasons that I will explain throughout (and that hopefully make sense at every level), I will focus on the interrelationships of boys and men. I trust that insightful women will parallel my efforts with discussions of how girls and women can benefit from interacting with each other as they develop. The possibilities of positive cross-sex interactions -- girl-man and boy-woman -- also need discussion, and I invite other scholars to address these topics.

Using the terms "interactions" and "interrelationships" to describe my theme for these pages will raise some red flags in the minds of some readers. Details of my position will be found elsewhere at this site. For now, here's the bottom line: I advocate complete abstinence from sexual contact between adults and minors. I believe that unacceptable harm to all concerned is virtually inevitable under the customs, values and attitudes of our society.

I am personally responsible for whatever is posted here, but not for any material found at other sites to which I have linked.

My plan is to spend the next 20 years or so building this site, then spend the remaining time after that sitting in a rocking chair somewhere reading it (or having someone read it to me!). In the meantime, perhaps others will find it instructive, interesting, maddening, helpful, amusing, silly or even worthless. I promise it will be all of that.

The developmental psychologist Erik Eriksen (1902-1994) described for us eight stages of life, the seventh of which extends into our middle-60s and is characterized by either the failure of stagnation or the virtue (success) of generativity. I believe this virtue can be realized through parenting, community service, philanthropy, writing and any number of ways of giving back to the culture the tangibles and intangibles that one has acquired in living life. This is not always easy.

One of the hardest things in the world is to learn how to live your life
And even harder is to pass on that knowledge.
-- Ruth Gordon (1896-1985), writer/actress
  June 6, 1977 interview in The Christian Science Monitor

This "Exit Interview" will grow in several sections, subject to change, and presented through links as separate Web pages:

• Rules and Issues
• Credentials - Curriculum Vitae
• (Mostly) Unpublished Writings
• Letters to Editors (and published photographs)
• Original Essays
  This section is being developed because I noticed the "Journal" (see below) was getting too fat with my opinions and rants. More to the point, I noticed that there were several themes developing as I added journal entries, so I decided to begin moving those entries into some (hopefully) coherent documents.
  
  • Children as Competent Human Beings
  • The Spark of Adolescence
  • The Edwardian Boy in the XXI Century
  • Boy Lover, not Paedophile
  • Accomodation Rage -- The Angst of Being Social
  • Constructive and Defensive Motivation
  • The Guiding Angel
  • All the Past is Epilogue - Warnings We (You) Have Ignored
• Lists Relating to Social Issues, Problems and Clichés
• Advice for Boys and Adolescent Men
  (NOTE: these Advice pages are located on a separate Web page [domain name] so that younger readers who find them won't be confused by browsing the more advanced topics covered on these "Exitinterview" pages)
• Historical Survey of Attitudes about Boys and Men
• The Problem of Sex -- Why "Background" (i.e., De-emphasize) This Subject on This Site?
• Suppression of Research - A Society in Denial
• References - "The Literature"
• Examining Society's Overreaction: An Idea Whose Time Has Come?
  References which discuss society's possible overreaction
• Rare Documents Not Likely in Libraries
• Acknowledgements and Appreciations
• Quotations
• Poetry
• Journal

Visit occasionally; visit often.
Be well.